What Makes People Happy?
About a year ago, for several days, I wrote down everything that made me genuinely happy, even for a moment. I wanted to find out what was really making me happy, not just what I thought was making me happy, which I suspected might not be the same things.
There were things I enjoyed and that gave me happiness because they were pleasurable, like deep personal conversations with good friends.
Also, an emotionally moving song, a movie (less often), a meaningful sentence of insight, or a beautiful painting. All of these really involve thankfulness, appreciation, and gratitude.
My connection with God in prayer gave me the most satisfaction and feeling of love and meaning.
Friendships with good people gave me the second highest amount of happiness.
Fourth was gratitude for all the things above.
Third was what I read in an article was the number one predictor of happiness. I rank it number three, with communion with the Spirit of God in my spirit as, by far, number one.
Personal Control
I was very surprised to discover that one thing, over and over, gave me the most durable and constant happiness (not counting spiritual joy or relational happiness): PERSONAL CONTROL over the things I was doing.
There are several psychological research articles that strongly support this very important insight.
Not Passivity
Too many Christian believers and people in religious traditions take the attitude that it is God’s (or the universe’s) responsibility to choose their life, to do their life for them, as they sit back, passively. While we are to live in love and follow God’s Spirit by our spirit, there is a lot of creative freedom and responsibility that is ours, to take control over our lives, under God.
God made humans with freewill, and we are not happy when we do not use the creative gift that He gave us.
Curtis Smale